Jonah L. Olaño

BSED 2N

To be Nobody but Yourself

               Gender truly affects as all, especially on the part of being a woman. With the glimpse of this poem entitled Order for Maskwrotten by Virginia R. Moreno, Ihave seen how the persona in this poem made an effort just to satisfy the needs and wants of the three men inher life. This woman has to wear three different faces with three different roles. One has to be a sister who do things opposite to her brother. The second one is to be a daughter the woman towards her father. She wants to show his father the  kind of woman he expected her to be innocent, modest, leading himto believe that she is an ideal daughter. Last is a lover a woman towards her lover where in, her role is to satisfy the needs and wants of her partner. She wants him to believe that she is the best partner for him.

               We can look as these faces as a series of masks or fase personalities. The behavior, action and most especially her real personality is juyst in conformity with the needs of men. Her uniqueness as being herself were totally lost. This, in a way, her status of being a woman  turned merely as an instrument of men that satisfies and pleases in order to deal with them.

               Hiding behind a mask will never do good. We don’t have to be somebody just to get the love,  acceptance, attention and care we expectto get from them. If they really love you as being who you are, they will stick to your side in every minute of your life. If the presona (woman) choose not to forbid her happiness by bringing herself in front of them, she might be smiling sincerely and living a life without those series of masks. She does it over too much love for others that she forgot to give love for her own-as a woman. She get attention and love out of pretending which never brought real happiness. It is just as if giving way in order not to feel the rejection from the people she gave importance. She lacks in her inner conviction to show hwr real- as herself.

             Women’s issue affect all people- not just us women. Although you’re a man, I’am sure you have your caring mom, sweet girlfriend, or a thoughtful grandma. We should see the importance of women not just because she is expected to be dutiful or bound to serve a man , but most importantly a woman brought you in this world, so we should love them wholeheartedly. No matter how imperfect they are.